Almost immediately after giving birth to one child someone (usually someone tactless) asks, “are you planning on having another?” It seems over time that question gets asked more and more. I have been hearing it a lot lately.
But here’s the thing. Even if I wanted one (which I’m not sure I do), I probably won’t be able to have another. One awful fact, and the hardest one to hear, is that chemotherapy will age my ovaries 10 years. 10 F*CKING YEARS!!!!! The likelihood of having anything usable at that point is very slim. It was recommended that I seek out advice on fertility and harvesting my eggs (because thinking about how I’m going to live with cancer for a while is clearly not enough).
Through guidance and google searching, I learned that Livestrong provides information to young cancer patients to help with fertility. They have helped find a fertility clinic that will harvest and freeze my eggs for free (the price can be a staggering $7000-$9000!!!!) along with 2 consultations. Storage of eggs is not included. This is great because I also learned that my insurance does not cover any fertility treatments whatsoever.
So, tomorrow I am going to the fertility clinic. Not because I’m sure I want another child. But because I’m not sure that I don’t. I don’t want to have any regrets down the line. So I’m going to find out what my options are. I don’t think that I have many.
Does anyone have any experience with fertility pre-chemo treatment? Or surrogacy? Adoption with a cancer survivor as a parent?