My Little Bs Have the Big C

A Breast Cancer Blog For Young Women

Back To a Bit of Normal



The first week post diagnosis was hell.  It seems like ages ago but in reality only a little more than two short weeks have past.  I have moved through many stages of mourning; sadness and depression, anger and flat out denial (I actually imagined that my first doctor was really the Sweeney Todd of breast surgeons and that I didn’t have cancer, he just wanted to chop of my breasts.  This was not actually the case).  There were days that I couldn’t get myself out of bed or pick myself up off the floor.  I am a dramatic person by nature but this was real.  I couldn’t move.

Now that some time has passed, I’ve had all of my biopsies, scans, blood work and meetings, I’m in a waiting place.  Instead of watching the clock tick by until my mastectomy, which I thought I would be, I’m leading life normally.  I often forget now that I have cancer and that in less than three weeks my body will be changed forever.  I’m cooking dinner, going to the grocery store, doing laundry, changing diapers…normal, normal, normal.  Too normal, maybe.

I say, “too normal” because I’m afraid that when I actually get to the hospital on September 5, it’s all going to come flooding back at once and I’ll be completely blindsided.  “What am I doing here?  What are you going to do with that scalpel?”  I’m nervous that my fear will be so crippling, that I won’t be able to do it.  I know I’ll have to.  But what if I can’t?  

Normal is great for right now.  But what am I going to do next?


4 thoughts on “Back To a Bit of Normal

  1. You’ll be strong enough. People will start telling you “oh you’re soooo brave!” and “I don’t know if I could do it!” but the reality is… we have cancer, it sucks, and we simply get on with it. This is our life now and we’re going to get through it, all of us.

  2. Thank you. I know that it’s something I will do because I have to. But it’s hard to imagine where that strength comes from. The strength to face a fear.

  3. It’s the same strength that inspired you to write this blog and commit your experience to print! None of this is easy, foshizzle. But I, too, believe you are strong enough. No, cut the “enough”. Let’s just go with: you are strong!

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